The online sex industry is growing quickly and gaining popularity. There are many different forms of online sex, but the one form that seems to underpin them all, the ‘backbone’ of the industry if you will, is sexting. Sexting can take place between married couples, complete strangers, or friends with benefits. It can be paid, for free, for fun or used as foreplay. It is a versatile medium with a lot of misconception, stigma and mystery surrounding it. The truth is, sexting has been around a lot longer than many of us think; from the creation of the written word humans have been sending each other steamy letters, and the explosive introduction of the internet has revolutionised this ancient practice. Most people, especially of the millennial generation have taken part in some sort of sexting. In this article we’ll dive into what sexting really reveals about human nature, who does it and why.
So, What Is Sexting?
Sexting is considered an art form by some, boring by others and a heinous sin by more still. Put simply, it is the practice of exchanging risqué messages and photos between two (or sometimes more people) via a phone or online. Although it sounds simple and to some extent, irrelevant, sexting can be so much more than that.
With the creation of the internet and its subsequent rapid expansion into a dominating force in our society, human sexuality has expanded accordingly. Using sites such as Arousr.com, both men and women have been able to start connecting with people from all over the world to play out their wildest sexual fantasies from the safety and comfort of their own home and without fear of judgement. Sexting has been around in some form or another since long before the mobile phone. There is evidence that the earliest cavemen used to draw out their sexual fantasies on rocks, and this trickled down to permeate all of history. Renowned writer James Joyce famously wrote passionate letters to his then-lover andwife to-be, Nora in 1904, at a time when many assumed that sexuality was something kept tightly under wraps.
Common Misconceptions About Sexting
Sexting is quite a taboo issue, and as with any taboo issue, there is always some form of misconception surrounding it. Common misconceptions about sexting include that it is only something done by the younger generation, but this is simply not true. While it is true that 70% of 18-24 year olds report engaging in sending sexual messages, this doesn’t mean that older generations don’t also take part. 25% of people aged 50-75 admit sending sexual messages or photos via text or social media, which shouldn’t be surprising considering the increased awareness around sexuality and a change in social norms.
Another common misconception about sexting is that it’s dangerous. While it’s true that in the wrong hands, sexual images and messages that have been sent can be used to hurt you, with the right precautions, this can be avoided. Generally, it is advised that if you are sending a sexual picture to someone you know, that you keep your face out of frame. However, if you’re just interested in sexting in general, using anonymous online services such as Arousr can help to ensure confidentiality and anonymity.
Online and Paid-For Sexting
There are many different online sex services out there, but many of the more popular services such as Arousr work on a credit basis, where users buy credits in order to chat to women. These sex chats can range from simply sending risqué messages, to steamy phone sex, or even to live video sessions. How intense the experience is and how far they want to go is completely up to the user and the performer, ensuring that everyone is comfortable and happy.
The majority of the performers working for sites such as Arousr are women, and these women earn money by messaging those who are interested in them. The users of this site purchase credits which they can then use to message women, and the women themselves receive a cut of this money for each message that they send. In addition to this they can also earn extra money via tips that clients send and occasionally also gifts.
There are sometimes fears that the women working in the online sex industry are desperate or forced, but this isn’t true. The majority of women working for sites such as Arousr are there because they saw an opportunity to earn money from home, doing something enjoyable and fun. Many of the women also report enjoying sexting themselves, such as one performer who says: “Do I get turned on during sexting sessions? Yes. I log into Arousr for the same reason as customers. To share and play out X-rated fantasies with other like-minded individuals.”
Chances are you’ve met someone who likes sexting, and if you haven’t, then they probably just haven’t admitted it to you. Sexting offers a new way for us to explore our sexualities without fear of judgement or exposure, which is what makes it so popular. Everyone from all sorts of ages and backgrounds can enjoy sexting, in much the same way that we can enjoy sex; it is merely a natural extension of human sexuality. Sexting offers a commitment free way to enjoy and express yourself, so essentially, it could be anyone. The one defining feature of the people who engage in sexting tends to be an open mind and willingness to explore.
The Evolution of Sex in Relation to Technology
It may seem like sexting is a new phenomenon but don’t be fooled, this art form has been around for centuries. Technology has simply changed the way we send sexual messages, making it easier and more efficient.
As humans have evolved, sex has evolved with us, and although we may not like to admit it, humanity has always been exploring new ways to enjoy ourselves. From the earliest cavemen, to the knights of the medieval era, to the raunchy swingers of the 1920’s, advancements in technology have only served to enhance and expand the range of human sexual liberation. While this can have negative consequences, when used carefully and with full consent, technology can be a great way to explore new realms and discover different likes and dislikes, as it has helped us to do for hundreds of years.